Positiveness is a choice.

Well, if you read my blog long enough and follow my social media. You would probably know that I don't ever voice out too personal opinions. Unless, it gets to the point whereby, I don't wish to talk about the issue with anyone else and type them all out. 

Social media to me, is a platform whereby anybody can use and if not used correctly? it can actually backfire. Therefore, I am always conscious of what I post online. Also, another reason why myself is so strict about sharing only good vibes and positive content as much as I can.

Before I continue typing out this entry, let me confirm that this post is not directed at any particular person. In all simplicity, it is just thoughts which I feel the strong urge to share. 

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My motto has always been to "Spread Positivity." Till today, the fact that I wish to make the world I live in a better place for the people around me and myself haven't changed at all and will not. 

Staying positive is not easy mentally, it takes courage and a constant effort to practice the attitude. No one is born with a happy-go-lucky personality, neither me. We're all humans who face failures and struggles in our everyday life. Thus, sometimes, I slightly dislike the way some people think that it is so easy for someone to be positive or even push it off by saying positiveness is a personality. Well, it is not true, Positiveness is an Attitude.

Easier said than done. How can one even become optimistic all of a sudden? you are probably questioning. There are really simple choices which you can make. To create a happier world for yourselves and others.

1. Don't overthink.
Stop pondering so much about what has not happened yet. What will happen in the future, will happen. 

2. Do what you can do now.
Remember, Mistakes are made so you can learn to become successful. 
I always believe that mistakes are not failures. That failures are the accumulation of success that has yet to come. 

3. Be kinder to yourself. 
It's okay to blame yourself but don't do it so much that you hurt your soul and your heart. Practice loving yourself. 

4. Learn to be nice to ourselves
If you are feeling upset, treat yourself to your favourite food or do anything that would cheer you up. Once you feel better, remind yourself with good thoughts. 
In general, we all tend to vent it out on others when we are in a terrible mood, but the other party doesn't deserve to be hurt. Be nice to others and ourselves.
Because nobody, including yourself, deserves to be treated badly.

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When we are at our lowest, we often isolate ourselves and selfishly brood over our misery. However, we should not allow ourselves to be occupied by the demons in our head. Instead, we should defeat them by reminding ourselves about all the better things that have yet to come. 
Surely, it is not going to be easy but please know that nothing has even started, hence, don't label an ending for yourself. Everyone is afraid of many things but it is also important to be brave and courageous towards our fears.

Believe me, it is true. I understand the overflowing sentiment when your world feels like it has fallen apart and nothing you do can mend it back to the way you wish it would. So many times, you wish you can turn back time and re-do all. 
As much as we want to, time doesn't return. 
Thus, don't look back, You look Forward. It's okay, everyone will experience how it feels like to hit rock bottom.

I cannot emphasise strongly enough that, positiveness is a decision. 
It is definitely not a constant lie to ourselves.

You don't put on a smiling mask and appear saying that you are positive. 
Positiveness is to be carried out with an attitude, a mindset, that is constantly thinking on the brighter side. Forget about the fears, for there is always time to create a better future. Grow to become fearless of failures this is how you become positive towards everything that tries to knock you down. 
Remember, No one is born with a positive personality. 

Also, don't surround yourself with people that influence you negatively, stay away from them. 

Another personal opinion of mine would be to never hold onto grudges and remind oneself to forgive. We would only be drowned in the hateful cycle if one doesn't learn to forgive. Forgiving doesn't mean forgetting, you forgive to make your heart feel lighter and take the experience as part of growing up. 
Don't create regrets that destroy tomorrow's future. 

Forgive others for any mistakes they have commit. 

Forgive yourself for all your immaturity.

Forgive for the reason to build happiness and not feed on hatred. 

Because mistakes do not define someone and we all make wrong decisions in life. Every person and even ourselves deserves a third chance. 

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Regardless of your background. One should never think only about their suffering. Every living soul has enough problems to deal with. Whether they are short-term or long-term, please remember that you are not the only one who is going through difficult times. Your parents, friends, teachers or strangers all have their own problems to solve. We are all the same.

Sometimes, the solution is actually very simple. Which is why I cannot emphasise how important it is to reflect on yourself. To clear your thoughts of train and really think before you speak your thoughts or even have the intention to share them. 

- Learning to control your emotion and thinking process is part of growth, also, yourselves being empathic towards other's point of view.

- The significance of being nice to people. The world is already cruel enough to live in, why make things more difficult and complicated for another? Be Nice.

- The importance of listening when someone is standing in your shoe. 
Don't act so immature and just listen, sometimes, it's just you who thinks that the other party that is giving you the advice doesn't understand you. But in actual fact, you are the one who doesn't understand. 
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As social media becomes a huge part of our everyday lifestyle.
There is definitely nothing wrong about sharing our voices online or offline, for that is perfectly fine.

Talking things out, posting short status, writing them down in a book, typing it out in words? is without a doubt, a method to relieve one's mental health.

It's everyone freedom of choice to decide their course of action in life and we should not judge them for it.

However, I disagree to the extent of spreading negativity and affecting others with the same state of mind. In all personal opinion, encouraging such a negative mindset is just so wrong...and the most self-centred act of anyone. 

Such intention whether on purpose or subconscious is a total inconsideration towards one's partner who truly cares. 

Words are like an invisible knife that stabs. Don't hurt others because of your incompetence, learn to blame yourself before you blame someone else for anything. CHOOSE YOUR WORDS WISELY. Depending on the choice of words, it can change someone COMPLETELY. 

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You don't have to be someone amazing to spread positivity. You do so by appreciating and respecting others. 

Start with the people around you, and STOP INFLUENCING your negativity onto others. BE APPRECIATIVE AND BE NICE. 

Remember, Positiveness is an Attitude ;)

I hope everyone can be happy every day!!